I’ve been meaning to write this post for sometime now. I’m aware I’ve shared with some how special this particular care interaction is, I use the word interaction as I really do dislike the word task, it’s so impersonal.
Firstly, some context, and how these thoughts came about.
I provide support to a wonderful lady who has dementia. Every morning I make a lovely bowl of porridge for her, we start talking about it as we’re starting our morning routine, and In return I am treated to a comedic smacking of her lips, a thumbs up or a knowing smile. With porridge in hand I sit and patiently assist her with feeding. I’m told I make the best porridge, ” but don’t tell the others” she’ll say. That never fails to make me smile!
When we think of assisted feeding, it’s easy to focus solely on the act of providing food. But in truth, assisted feeding is a deeply personal, emotional and dignified exchange.
It builds human connection, a moment of care, tenderness and trust, reinforcing dignity and respect.
When we assist someone with eating, we honour their preferences, pace and comfort, it’s never about rushing to finish – its about sharing a respectful moment of support.
Don’t underestimate the impact on emotional well-being, food is tied to memory and comfort. A familiar dish can spark joy, calm as well as conversation. Assisted feeding done with empathy can offer much needed emotional nourishment and reduce anxiety.
Providing meals with consistency and care offers structure and reassurance, especially for people living with dementia.
I made reference to my dislike of the word ‘task.’ This is because assisted feeding is not a task, it’s a relationship, an act of meaningful care. A chance to bring dignity, presence and kindness to a person’s day.